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    Title: Quotes and Images From Chesterfield's Letters to His Son
             On the Fine Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman

    Author: The Earl of Chesterfield
                Edited and Arranged by David Widger

    Release Date: August 29, 2004 [EBook #7539]
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# LETTERS TO HIS SON, 1766-1771

## by The Earl of Chesterfield

> ## QUOTATIONS

>     A little learning is a dangerous thing
>     A joker is near akin to a buffoon
>     A favor may make an enemy, and an injury may make a friend
>     Ablest man will sometimes do weak things
>     Above all things, avoid speaking of yourself
>     Above the frivolous as below the important and the secret
>     Above trifles, he is never vehement and eager about them
>     Absolute command of your temper
>     Abstain from learned ostentation
>     Absurd term of genteel and fashionable vices
>     Absurd romances of the two last centuries
>     According as their interest prompts them to wish
>     Acquainted with books, and an absolute stranger to men
>     Advice is seldom welcome
>     Advise those who do not speak elegantly, not to speak
>     Advocate, the friend, but not the bully of virtue
>     Affectation of singularity or superiority
>     Affectation in dress
>     Affectation of business
>     All have senses to be gratified
>     Always made the best of the best, and never made bad worse
>     Always does more than he says
>     Always some favorite word for the time being
>     Always look people in the face when you speak to them
>     Am still unwell; I cannot help it!
>     American Colonies
>     Ancients and Moderns
>     Anxiety for my health and life
>     Applauded often, without approving
>     Apt to make them think themselves more necessary than they are
>     Argumentative, polemical conversations
>     Arrogant pedant
>     Art of pleasing is the most necessary
>     As willing and as apt to be pleased as anybody
>     Ascribing the greatest actions to the most trifling causes
>     Assenting, but without being servile and abject
>     Assertion instead of argument
>     Assign the deepest motives for the most trifling actions
>     Assurance and intrepidity
>     At the first impulse of passion, be silent till you can be soft
>     Attacked by ridicule, and, punished with contempt
>     Attend to the objects of your expenses, but not to the sums
>     Attention to the inside of books
>     Attention and civility please all
>     Attention
>     Author is obscure and difficult in his own language
>     Authority
>     Avoid cacophony, and, what is very near as bad, monotony
>     Avoid singularity
>     Awkward address, ungraceful attitudes and actions
>     Be neither transported nor depressed by the accidents of life
>     Be silent till you can be soft
>     Being in the power of every man to hurt him
>     Being intelligible is now no longer the fashion
>     Better not to seem to understand, than to reply
>     Better refuse a favor gracefully, than to grant it clumsily
>     Blindness of the understanding is as much to be pitied
>     Bold, but with great seeming modesty
>     Borough-jobber
>     Business must be well, not affectedly dressed
>     Business now is to shine, not to weigh
>     Business by no means forbids pleasures
>     BUT OF THIS EVERY MAN WILL BELIEVE AS HE THINKS PROPER
>     Can hardly be said to see what they see
>     Cannot understand them, or will not desire to understand them
>     Cardinal Mazarin
>     Cardinal Richelieu
>     Cardinal de Retz
>     Cardinal Virtues, by first degrading them into weaknesses
>     Cautious how we draw inferences
>     Cease to love when you cease to be agreeable
>     Chameleon, be able to take every different hue
>     Characters, that never existed, are insipidly displayed
>     Cheerful in the countenance, but without laughing
>     Chit-chat, useful to keep off improper and too serious subjects
>     Choose your pleasures for yourself
>     Civility, which is a disposition to accommodate and oblige others
>     Clamorers triumph
>     Close, without being costive
>     Command of our temper, and of our countenance
>     Commanding with dignity, you must serve up to it with diligence
>     Committing acts of hostility upon the Graces
>     Common sense (which, in truth, very uncommon)
>     Commonplace observations
>     Company is, in truth, a constant state of negotiation
>     Complaisance
>     Complaisance to every or anybody's opinion
>     Complaisance due to the custom of the place
>     Complaisant indulgence for people's weaknesses
>     Conceal all your learning carefully
>     Concealed what learning I had
>     Conjectures pass upon us for truths
>     Conjectures supply the defect of unattainable knowledge
>     Connections
>     Connive at knaves, and tolerate fools
>     Consciousness of merit makes a man of sense more modest
>     Consciousness and an honest pride of doing well
>     Consider things in the worst light, to show your skill
>     Content yourself with mediocrity in nothing
>     Conversation-stock being a joint and common property
>     Conversation will help you almost as much as books
>     Converse with his inferiors without insolence
>     Dance to those who pipe
>     Darkness visible
>     Decides peremptorily upon every subject
>     Deep learning is generally tainted with pedantry
>     Deepest learning, without good-breeding, is unwelcome
>     Defended by arms, adorned by manners, and improved by laws
>     Deserve a little, and you shall have but a little
>     Desire to please, and that is the main point
>     Desirous of praise from the praiseworthy
>     Desirous to make you their friend
>     Desirous of pleasing
>     Despairs of ever being able to pay
>     Dexterity enough to conceal a truth without telling a lie
>     Dictate to them while you seem to be directed by them
>     Difference in everything between system and practice
>     Difficulties seem to them, impossibilities
>     Dignity to be kept up in pleasures, as well as in business
>     Disagreeable to seem reserved, and very dangerous not to be so
>     Disagreeable things may be done so agreeably as almost to oblige
>     Disputes with heat
>     Dissimulation is only to hide our own cards
>     Distinction between simulation and dissimulation
>     Distinguish between the useful and the curious
>     Do as you would be done by
>     Do not become a virtuoso of small wares
>     Do what you are about
>     Do what you will but do something all day long
>     Do as you would be done by
>     Do not mistake the tinsel of Tasso for the gold of Virgil
>     Does not give it you, but he inflicts it upon you
>     Doing, 'de bonne grace', what you could not help doing
>     Doing what may deserve to be written
>     Doing nothing, and might just as well be asleep
>     Doing anything that will deserve to be written
>     Done under concern and embarrassment, must be ill done
>     Dress like the reasonable people of your own age
>     Dress well, and not too well
>     Dressed as the generality of people of fashion are
>     Ears to hear, but not sense enough to judge
>     Easy without negligence
>     Easy without too much familiarity
>     Economist of your time
>     Either do not think, or do not love to think
>     Elegance in one language will reproduce itself in all
>     Employ your whole time, which few people do
>     Endeavor to hear, and know all opinions
>     Endeavors to please and oblige our fellow-creatures
>     Enemies as if they may one day become one's friends
>     Enjoy all those advantages
>     Equally forbid insolent contempt, or low envy and jealousy
>     ERE TITTERING YOUTH SHALL SHOVE YOU FROM THE STAGE
>     Establishing a character of integrity and good manners
>     Even where you are sure, seem rather doubtful
>     Every numerous assembly is MOB
>     Every virtue, has its kindred vice or weakness
>     Every man knows that he understands religion and politics
>     Every numerous assembly is a mob
>     Every man pretends to common sense
>     EVERY DAY IS STILL BUT AS THE FIRST
>     Everybody is good for something
>     Everything has a better and a worse side
>     Exalt the gentle in woman and man--above the merely genteel
>     Expresses himself with more fire than elegance
>     Extremely weary of this silly world
>     Eyes and the ears are the only roads to the heart
>     Eyes and ears open and mouth mostly shut
>     Feed him, and feed upon him at the same time
>     Few things which people in general know less, than how to love
>     Few people know how to love, or how to hate
>     Few dare dissent from an established opinion
>     Fiddle-faddle stories, that carry no information along with them
>     Fit to live--or not live at all
>     Flattering people behind their backs
>     Flattery of women
>     Flattery
>     Flexibility of manners is necessary in the course of the world
>     Fools, who can never be undeceived
>     Fools never perceive where they are ill-timed
>     Forge accusations against themselves
>     Forgive, but not approve, the bad.
>     Fortune stoops to the forward and the bold
>     Frank without indiscretion
>     Frank, but without indiscretion
>     Frank, open, and ingenuous exterior, with a prudent interior
>     Frequently make friends of enemies, and enemies of friends
>     Friendship upon very slight acquaintance
>     Frivolous, idle people, whose time hangs upon their own hands
>     Frivolous curiosity about trifles
>     Frivolous and superficial pertness
>     Full-bottomed wigs were contrived for his humpback
>     Gain the heart, or you gain nothing
>     Gain the affections as well as the esteem
>     Gainer by your misfortune
>     General conclusions from certain particular principles
>     Generosity often runs into profusion
>     Genteel without affectation
>     Gentlemen, who take such a fancy to you at first sight
>     Gentleness of manners, with firmness of mind
>     Geography and history are very imperfect separately
>     German, who has taken into his head that he understands French
>     Go to the bottom of things
>     Good manners
>     Good reasons alleged are seldom the true ones
>     Good manners are the settled medium of social life
>     Good company
>     Good-breeding
>     Graces: Without us, all labor is vain
>     Gratitude not being universal, nor even common
>     Grave without the affectation of wisdom
>     Great learning; which, if not accompanied with sound judgment
>     Great numbers of people met together, animate each other
>     Greatest fools are the greatest liars
>     Grow wiser when it is too late
>     Guard against those who make the most court to you
>     Habit and prejudice
>     Habitual eloquence
>     Half done or half known
>     Hardened to the wants and distresses of mankind
>     Hardly any body good for every thing
>     Haste and hurry are very different things
>     Have no pleasures but your own
>     Have a will and an opinion of your own, and adhere to it
>     Have I employed my time, or have I squandered it?
>     Have but one set of jokes to live upon
>     Have you learned to carve?
>     He that is gentil doeth gentil deeds
>     He will find it out of himself without your endeavors
>     Heart has such an influence over the understanding
>     Helps only, not as guides
>     Herd of mankind can hardly be said to think
>     Historians
>     Holiday eloquence
>     Home, be it ever so homely
>     Honest error is to be pitied, not ridiculed
>     Honestest man loves himself best
>     Horace
>     How troublesome an old correspondent must be to a young one
>     How much you have to do; and how little time to do it in
>     Human nature is always the same
>     Hurt those they love by a mistaken indulgence
>     I hope, I wish, I doubt, and fear alternately
>     I shall never know, though all the coffeehouses here do.
>     I shall always love you as you shall deserve.
>     I know myself (no common piece of knowledge, let me tell you)
>     I CANNOT DO SUCH A THING
>     I, who am not apt to know anything that I do not know
>     Idleness is only the refuge of weak minds
>     If free from the guilt, be free from the suspicion, too
>     If you would convince others, seem open to conviction yourself
>     If I don't mind his orders he won't mind my draughts
>     If you will persuade, you must first please
>     If once we quarrel, I will never forgive
>     Ignorant of their natural rights, cherished their chains
>     Impertinent insult upon custom and fashion
>     Improve yourself with the old, divert yourself with the young
>     Inaction at your age is unpardonable
>     Inattention
>     Inattentive, absent; and distrait
>     Inclined to be fat, but I hope you will decline it
>     Incontinency of friendship among young fellows
>     Indiscriminate familiarity
>     Indiscriminately loading their memories with every part alike
>     Indolence
>     Indolently say that they cannot do
>     Infallibly to be gained by every sort of flattery
>     Information is, in a certain degree, mortifying
>     Information implies our previous ignorance; it must be sweetened
>     Injury is much sooner forgotten than an insult
>     Inquisition
>     Insinuates himself only into the esteem of fools
>     Insipid in his pleasures, as inefficient in everything else
>     Insist upon your neither piping nor fiddling yourself
>     Insolent civility
>     INTOLERATION in religious, and inhospitality in civil matters
>     Intrinsic, and not their imaginary value
>     It is a real inconvenience to anybody to be fat
>     It is not sufficient to deserve well; one must please well too
>     Jealous of being slighted
>     Jog on like man and wife; that is, seldom agreeing
>     Judge of every man's truth by his degree of understanding
>     Judge them all by their merits, but not by their ages
>     Judges from the appearances of things, and not from the reality
>     Keep your own temper and artfully warm other people's
>     Keep good company, and company above yourself
>     Kick him upstairs
>     King's popularity is a better guard than their army
>     Know their real value, and how much they are generally overrated
>     Know the true value of time
>     Know, yourself and others
>     Knowing how much you have, and how little you want
>     Knowing any language imperfectly
>     Knowledge is like power in this respect
>     Knowledge: either despise it, or think that they have enough
>     Knowledge of a scholar with the manners of a courtier
>     Known people pretend to vices they had not
>     Knows what things are little, and what not
>     Labor is the unavoidable fatigue of a necessary journey
>     Labor more to put them in conceit with themselves
>     Last beautiful varnish, which raises the colors
>     Laughing, I must particularly warn you against it
>     Lay down a method for everything, and stick to it inviolably
>     Lazy mind, and the trifling, frivolous mind
>     Learn to keep your own secrets
>     Learn, if you can, the WHY and the WHEREFORE
>     Leave the company, at least as soon as he is wished out of it
>     Led, much oftener by little things than by great ones
>     Less one has to do, the less time one finds to do it in
>     Let me see more of you in your letters
>     Let them quietly enjoy their errors in taste
>     Let nobody discover that you do know your own value
>     Let nothing pass till you understand it
>     Let blockheads read what blockheads wrote
>     Life of ignorance is not only a very contemptible, but tiresome
>     Listlessness and indolence are always blameable
>     Little minds mistake little objects for great ones
>     Little failings and weaknesses
>     Loud laughter is the mirth of the mob
>     Love with him, who they think is the most in love with them
>     Loved without being despised, and feared without being hated
>     Low company, most falsely and impudently, call pleasure
>     Low buffoonery, or silly accidents, that always excite laughter
>     Luther's disappointed avarice
>     Machiavel
>     Made him believe that the world was made for him
>     Make a great difference between companions and friends
>     Make himself whatever he pleases, except a good poet
>     Make yourself necessary
>     Make every man I met with like me, and every woman love me
>     Man is dishonored by not resenting an affront
>     Man or woman cannot resist an engaging exterior
>     Man of sense may be in haste, but can never be in a hurry
>     Man who is only good on holydays is good for very little
>     Mangles what he means to carve
>     Manner is full as important as the matter
>     Manner of doing things is often more important
>     Manners must adorn knowledge
>     Many things which seem extremely probable are not true
>     Many are very willing, and very few able
>     Mastery of one's temper
>     May you live as long as you are fit to live, but no longer!
>     May you rather die before you cease to be fit to live
>     May not forget with ease what you have with difficulty learned
>     Mazarin and Lewis the Fourteenth riveted the shackles
>     Meditation and reflection
>     Mere reason and good sense is never to be talked to a mob
>     Merit and good-breeding will make their way everywhere
>     Method
>     Mistimes or misplaces everything
>     Mitigating, engaging words do by no means weaken your argument
>     MOB: Understanding they have collectively none
>     Moderation with your enemies
>     Modesty is the only sure bait when you angle for praise
>     Money, the cause of much mischief
>     More people have ears to be tickled, than understandings to judge
>     More one sees, the less one either wonders or admires
>     More you know, the modester you should be
>     More one works, the more willing one is to work
>     Mortifying inferiority in knowledge, rank, fortune
>     Most people enjoy the inferiority of their best friends
>     Most long talkers single out some one unfortunate man in company
>     Most ignorant are, as usual, the boldest conjecturers
>     Most people have ears, but few have judgment; tickle those ears
>     Much sooner forgive an injustice than an insult
>     My own health varies, as usual, but never deviates into good
>     Mystical nonsense
>     Name that we leave behind at one place often gets before us
>     National honor and interest have been sacrificed to private
>     Necessity of scrupulously preserving the appearances
>     Neglect them in little things, they will leave you in great
>     Negligence of it implies an indifference about pleasing
>     Neither know nor care, (when I die) for I am very weary
>     Neither abilities or words enough to call a coach
>     Neither retail nor receive scandal willingly
>     Never would know anything that he had not a mind to know
>     Never read history without having maps
>     Never affect the character in which you have a mind to shine
>     Never implicitly adopt a character upon common fame
>     Never seek for wit; if it presents itself, well and good
>     Never to speak of yourself at all
>     Never slattern away one minute in idleness
>     Never quit a subject till you are thoroughly master of it
>     Never maintain an argument with heat and clamor
>     Never seem wiser, nor more learned, than the people you are with
>     Never saw a froward child mended by whipping
>     Never to trust implicitly to the informations of others
>     Nipped in the bud
>     No great regard for human testimony
>     No man is distrait with the man he fears, or the woman he loves
>     No one feels pleasure, who does not at the same time give it
>     Not tumble, but slide gently to the bottom of the hill of life
>     Not to communicate, prematurely, one's hopes or one's fears
>     Not only pure, but, like Caesar's wife, unsuspected
>     Not make their want still worse by grieving and regretting them
>     Not making use of any one capital letter
>     Not to admire anything too much
>     Not one minute of the day in which you do nothing at all
>     Notes by which dances are now pricked down as well as tunes
>     Nothing in courts is exactly as it appears to be
>     Nothing much worth either desiring or fearing
>     Nothing so precious as time, and so irrecoverable when lost
>     Observe, without being thought an observer
>     Often more necessary to conceal contempt than resentment
>     Often necessary, not to manifest all one feels
>     Often necessary to seem ignorant of what one knows
>     Oftener led by their hearts than by their understandings
>     Old fellow ought to seem wise whether he really be so or not
>     One must often yield, in order to prevail
>     Only doing one thing at a time
>     Only because she will not, and not because she cannot
>     Only solid and lasting peace, between a man and his wife
>     Our understandings are generally the DUPES of our hearts
>     Our frivolous dissertations upon the weather, or upon whist
>     Out of livery; which makes them both impertinent and useless
>     Outward air of modesty to all he does
>     Overvalue what we do not know
>     Oysters, are only in season in the R months
>     Passes for a wit, though he hath certainly no uncommon share
>     Patience is the only way not to make bad worse
>     Patient toleration of certain airs of superiority
>     Pay your own reckoning, but do not treat the whole company
>     Pay them with compliments, but not with confidence
>     People never desire all till they have gotten a great deal
>     People lose a great deal of time by reading
>     People will repay, and with interest too, inattention
>     People angling for praise
>     People hate those who make them feel their own inferiority
>     Perfection of everything that is worth doing at all
>     Perseverance has surprising effects
>     Person to you whom I am very indifferent about, I mean myself
>     Pettish, pouting conduct is a great deal too young
>     Petty jury
>     Plain notions of right and wrong
>     Planted while young, that degree of knowledge now my refuge
>     Please all who are worth pleasing; offend none
>     Pleased to some degree by showing a desire to please
>     Pleased with him, by making them first pleased with themselves
>     Pleasing in company is the only way of being pleased in yourself
>     Pleasure and business with equal inattention
>     Pleasure is necessarily reciprocal
>     Pleasure is the rock which most young people split upon
>     Pleasures do not commonly last so long as life
>     Pocket all your knowledge with your watch
>     Polite, but without the troublesome forms and stiffness
>     POLITICIANS NEITHER LOVE NOR HATE
>     Prefer useful to frivolous conversations
>     Prejudices are our mistresses
>     Pride remembers it forever
>     Pride of being the first of the company
>     Prudent reserve
>     Public speaking
>     Put out your time, but to good interest
>     Quarrel with them when they are grown up, for being spoiled
>     Quietly cherished error, instead of seeking for truth
>     Read my eyes out every day, that I may not hang myself
>     Read with caution and distrust
>     Real merit of any kind will be discovered
>     Real friendship is a slow grower
>     Reason ought to direct the whole, but seldom does
>     Reason, which always ought to direct mankind, seldom does
>     Receive them with great civility, but with great incredulity
>     Reciprocally profess wishes which they seldom form
>     Recommend (pleasure) to you, like an Epicurean
>     Recommends self-conversation to all authors
>     Refuge of people who have neither wit nor invention of their own
>     Refuse more gracefully than other people could grant
>     Repeating
>     Represent, but do not pronounce
>     Reserve with your friends
>     Respect without timidity
>     Respectful without meanness, easy without too much familiarity
>     Return you the ball 'a la volee'
>     Rich man never borrows
>     Richelieu came and shackled the nation
>     Rochefoucault, who, I am afraid, paints man very exactly
>     Rochefoucault
>     Rough corners which mere nature has given to the smoothest
>     Ruined their own son by what they called loving him
>     Same coolness and unconcern in any and every company
>     Scandal: receiver is always thought, as bad as the thief
>     Scarce any flattery is too gross for them to swallow
>     Scarcely any body who is absolutely good for nothing
>     Scrupled no means to obtain his ends
>     Secret, without being dark and mysterious
>     Secrets
>     See what you see, and to hear what you hear
>     Seem to like and approve of everything at first
>     Seeming frankness with a real reserve
>     Seeming inattention to the person who is speaking to you
>     Seeming openness is prudent
>     Seems to have no opinion of his own
>     Seldom a misfortune to be childless
>     Self-love draws a thick veil between us and our faults
>     Sentiment-mongers
>     Sentiments that were never felt, pompously described
>     Serious without being dull
>     Settled here for good, as it is called
>     Shakespeare
>     She has all the reading that a woman should have
>     She who conquers only catches a Tartar
>     She has uncommon, sense and knowledge for a woman
>     Shepherds and ministers are both men
>     Silence in love betrays more woe
>     Singularity is only pardonable in old age
>     Six, or at most seven hours sleep
>     Smile, where you cannot strike
>     Some complaisance and attention to fools is prudent
>     Some men pass their whole time in doing nothing
>     Something or other is to be got out of everybody
>     Something must be said, but that something must be nothing
>     Sooner forgive an injury than an insult
>     Sow jealousies among one's enemies
>     Spare the persons while you lash the crimes
>     Speaking to himself in the glass
>     Stamp-act has proved a most pernicious measure
>     Stamp-duty, which our Colonists absolutely refuse to pay
>     State your difficulties, whenever you have any
>     Steady assurance, with seeming modesty
>     Studied and elaborate dress of the ugliest women in the world
>     Style is the dress of thoughts
>     Success turns much more upon manner than matter
>     Sure guide is, he who has often gone the road which you want to
>     Suspicion of age, no woman, let her be ever so old, ever forgive
>     Swearing
>     Tacitus
>     Take the hue of the company you are with
>     Take characters, as they do most things, upon trust
>     Take, rather than give, the tone of the company you are in
>     Take nothing for granted, upon the bare authority of the author
>     Taking up adventitious, proves their want of intrinsic merit
>     Talent of hating with good-breeding and loving with prudence
>     Talk often, but never long
>     Talk sillily upon a subject of other people's
>     Talk of natural affection is talking nonsense
>     Talking of either your own or other people's domestic affairs
>     Tell me whom you live with, and I will tell you who you are
>     Tell stories very seldom
>     The longest life is too short for knowledge
>     The present moments are the only ones we are sure of
>     The best have something bad, and something little
>     The worst have something good, and sometimes something great
>     There are many avenues to every man
>     They thought I informed, because I pleased them
>     Thin veil of Modesty drawn before Vanity
>     Think to atone by zeal for their want of merit and importance
>     Think yourself less well than you are, in order to be quite so
>     Thinks himself much worse than he is
>     Thoroughly, not superficially
>     Those who remarkably affect any one virtue
>     Those whom you can make like themselves better
>     Three passions that often put honesty to most severe trials
>     Timidity and diffidence
>     To be heard with success, you must be heard with pleasure
>     To be pleased one must please
>     To govern mankind, one must not overrate them
>     To seem to have forgotten what one remembers
>     To know people's real sentiments, I trust much more to my eyes
>     To great caution, you can join seeming frankness and openness
>     Too like, and too exact a picture of human nature
>     Trifle only with triflers; and be serious only with the serious
>     Trifles that concern you are not trifles to me
>     Trifling parts, with their little jargon
>     Trite jokes and loud laughter reduce him to a buffoon
>     Truth, but not the whole truth, must be the invariable principle
>     Truth leaves no room for compliments
>     Unaffected silence upon that subject is the only true medium
>     Unguarded frankness
>     Unintelligible to his readers, and sometimes to himself
>     Unopened, because one title in twenty has been omitted
>     Unwilling and forced; it will never please
>     Use palliatives when you contradict
>     Useful sometimes to see the things which one ought to avoid
>     Value of moments, when cast up, is immense
>     Vanity, interest, and absurdity, always display
>     Vanity, that source of many of our follies
>     Warm and young thanks, not old and cold ones
>     Water-drinkers can write nothing good
>     We love to be pleased better than to be informed
>     We have many of those useful prejudices in this country
>     We shall be feared, if we do not show that we fear
>     Well dressed, not finely dressed
>     What pleases you in others, will in general please them in you
>     What displeases or pleases you in others
>     What you feel pleases you in them
>     What have I done to-day?
>     What is impossible, and what is only difficult
>     Whatever pleases you most in others
>     Whatever is worth doing at all, is worth doing well
>     Whatever one must do, one should do 'de bonne grace'
>     Whatever real merit you have, other people will discover
>     When well dressed for the day think no more of it afterward
>     Where one would gain people, remember that nothing is little
>     Who takes warning by the fate of others?
>     Wife, very often heard indeed, but seldom minded
>     Will not so much as hint at our follies
>     Will pay very dear for the quarrels and ambition of a few
>     Wish you, my dear friend, as many happy new years as you deserve
>     Wit may created any admirers but makes few friends
>     Witty without satire or commonplace
>     Woman like her, who has always pleased, and often been pleased
>     Women are the only refiners of the merit of men
>     Women choose their favorites more by the ear
>     Women are all so far Machiavelians
>     Words are the dress of thoughts
>     World is taken by the outside of things
>     Would not tell what she did not know
>     Wrapped up and absorbed in their abstruse speculations
>     Writing anything that may deserve to be read
>     Writing what may deserve to be read
>     Wrongs are often forgiven; but contempt never is
>     Yielded commonly without conviction
>     You must be respectable, if you will be respected
>     You had much better hold your tongue than them
>     Young people are very apt to overrate both men and things
>     Young fellow ought to be wiser than he should seem to be
>     Young men are as apt to think themselves wise enough
>     Your merit and your manners can alone raise you
>     Your character there, whatever it is, will get before you here

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