UNCONDITONAL LOVE
  From, Denial, Separation, Projection
  7-19-98
  Suffield, CT


B:  But again, I remind you, as I always will when this point comes up...it
must be an unconditional change.  You must change the belief because that's
who you say you /are,/  not because of what you think it will get you.  Yes,
I will be happy IF this happens,  I will be happy WHEN this happens.  Yes I
will change my belief because I know it will change my reality to look like
this or look like that.  That's conditional.  It needs to be unconditional
which means you need to change the belief and LIVE in the state you prefer
to live just because that's who you say you are, even
if /nothing/ .../else/ were to change.  You see the MARK, THE MEASURE, THE
SYMBOL of whether or not you have really, REALY changed is that you start
to respond /differently/, more positively to what's going on outside around
you even if what's going on outside around you /stays the same./ It is not
the mark of change that your outside world changes. It will but only after
you don't care if it does.  That's the paradox. You have to change for
changes sake, for your own sake. Because the change is representative of
simply who you are and that's it.  Not because of what you think it will do
or who you think it will change or what you think it will get you.  That's
conditional and this whole idea is about unconditional love.

  First of your self. Because if you don't love yourself unconditionally
you can't love anyone else, /really./ And then the outward expression of that
unconditional love, toward your life, toward everyone in our life, toward
everything and everyone and All That Is.