*Relationships and Expectations* Q: You know the last five years I've been involved in some bizarre relationships. B: Bizarre? (AUD: laughs) Q: Yeah. I felt it was bizarre. B: All right, all very creative, probably. Q: It still left me very confused. B: All right, nothing wrong with confusion. Q: Is there something karmic in that? B: Can be, yes. You may be playing out the idea of interactions so that you can form, let us say, a balance sheet with yourself, before you allow yourself to recognize that you yourself are the result of all integrated relationships within yourself. Can be somewhat karmic. Can also serve you in this life as well. Relationships are always there for a reason. When you allow the relationship to be there for the reason it is there, and not put expectations on what you think the relationship /should/ be for, then you will allow yourself to get out of it the service you need, and the recognition of the service that has been provided and vice versa. B. Thank you. Yes. Q2: Given... given what you just said about relationships... B: Yes. Q: Okay. If you want a relationship and you do not have a relationship, is it because maybe you are wanting it too much, so that... B: Perhaps. Q: ... it is not coming in? B: Recognize, first of all, you always have a relationship, no matter what the definition. You follow me? Q: I... I... I follow you. I'm talking about a heterosexual... B: Ah, we understand. We understand. (AUD: laughs). Let's start from zero. (AUD: laughs). You always have relationships because relationships are what you are. They are not truly things you /have/. They are what you /are/. You are relationships. Now, the idea can be that you find yourself not in physical proximity to another being that represents the relationship to you, perhaps, because you feel you need the relationship in order to be complete. So in this way, if you feel you need a relationship in order to be complete, then you will either, more often than not, attract a relationship - a being that will reflect your belief in your own incompleteness - or no one at all, to reflect the idea of your incompleteness. When you know you are complete, then you radiate that knowledge and you attract into your life all the beings that represent the idea of your knowledge of your completeness, and then that being can share with you - usually because you don't need each other in order to feel complete. So, paradoxically, you are more than open for each other to appear in your life, in order to reflect the completeness you know already exists. Q: I understand. B: You follow me? Q: Yes. Totally, uh, my sense is that my life has been working so well right now... B: Yes. Q: ... that it's, like, the perfect time. I feel... I feel the strongest and the healthiest to... B: All right. You may be picking up on your timing; but may I remind you that, by definition, when it /is/ the perfect timing nothing will stop it from happening. (AUD: laughs). Q: I just don't agree... like the timing. I want it now! B: Ah! (AUD: laughs). Judgment; judgment; judgment. (AUD: laughs) May I ask you a question? Q: Yes. B: Have there ever been situations in your life where, after having experienced a timing, after having experienced something coming into your life, whether or not this has physiologically happened - we know you can conjure this in your imagination, an understanding of when something occurred in your life - that you knew that if it /had/ occurred sooner, the same degree of ability to interact with it and appreciate it would not been there? Q: Yes. (AUD: laughs) B: Then trust that if the situation is not there, it is because the timing is such that, when it does happen, it will be timing that will allow you the fullest appreciation, and that that timing does not exist now; for if it did, it would be there. And if it is not there, then why would you want it to be there, if it does not represent the fullness of the timing that will allow you to appreciate it the most? Q: Hmmm. Okay. B: You follow me? Q: Yes. B: When you are enjoying every single moment of your life, because you know that what is happening at every single moment of your life is exactly a representation of the path you chose to be, then you will be excited about what is happening, and will not be impatient about what is not happening. The idea of impatience is only created when you think you need patience. You only need patience when you believe that what is happening now is not as good as what could be happening later. But recognize, if you are knowing that everything in your life is exactly where it is supposed to be, at any given time, then you will enjoy every moment. Enjoying every moment means you don't need patience. Which means you will never create impatience because you are too busy having fun to need patience. (AUD: laughs) Because you are never waiting for something, because there never will be anything better. There will always only be things different, but never better than what is happening; grander perhaps on a scale, but not better. Because that grander perspective is its own idea in its own right and has nothing to do, and no business being compared to what is going on now. Because what is going on now exists for its own sake and its own reasons, and that has nothing to do with what's going to go on later. You follow me? Q: Yes. I follow you. My thought was then to try and... B: Try? (AUD: laughs) Q: Then to, imagine, uh, what I want in a relationship. B: Oh, it serves a purpose. Q: ... to create. Oh. B: It gives you the idea of a symbol. Having the symbol itself, the visualization, can allow you to kick that energy into being, to start the momentum rolling. But recognize - not that what you visualize can't literally come to pass, because it can, but it doesn't have to. If you recognize that what you visualize is simply a template to allow you to start the energy rolling, then recognize you have started it rolling, and stop worrying about it. Let it take care of itself. It is automatic. If you worry the energy along then you are dragging it down. You are holding it back by worrying after it. (AUD: laughs, comments). Know that your visualization means that you enacted, in whatever way the template needs to be enacted, that energy. Pooph! It is out there. All you need to do is trust that it will then manifest in the quickest possible manner, at the appropriate timing, in the way that represents the idea that will allow you to feel the most fulfilled. Because the way the idea can manifest that will allow you to feel the most fulfilled may not be exactly, literally, the way you have envisioned it, because many things change on the road. But do recognize that no matter how it comes back to you, you will recognize it as the representation of the visualization you had, because it will feel right. No matter how different it is from the original description you gave it that enacted the energy. When it comes back, it will feel right. You will be excited about it. And excitement, once again, as always, is your physical translation of the vibrational energy that represents the path you chose to be. That is why you can always trust your excitement. No matter how different the symbols look from what your analytical mind says they should look like to represent the path you chose to be. It is the excitement, the feeling, the knowingness, that lets you know that a symbol that may appear very differently than you expected it to appear, is still a representative part of the path you chose to be. It comes in an unexpected way because you don't want your life to be boring. Q: (Laughs). Great. B: So trust the feeling. That is why, and it is associated with the idea that many of you have experienced in your dream reality, that even though an individual in your dream may look different, you know it is an individual you know in life. You go by the feeling, not the way they look. What is it you say? You can't judge a book... Q: By its cover. B: Thank you. Recognize, you always know the content, even if it is a new cover, because symbols are always changing. Because they are all neutral, so you are always changing the meaning of the symbol, and changing its aspect. So, go by the feeling. All right? Q: All right. B: Thank you very much! Q: Thank you.