*Preference and Moving Beyond Polarity* 


Q:  The point came up in a previous question about the dual nature of
personality. If I have two sides to my personality, one of them I like and
one of them I don't like...

B:  One is positive; one is negative.

Q:  Okay. But let's say the negative side wants to eat too many twinkies,
and he has all kinds of urges...

B: All right.

Q:  If I don't satisfy those urges, I feel discomfort. If, however, I do
satisfy those urges, I feel remorse. How do you resolve this dualness of
human personality?

B:  By simply recognizing, first and foremost, that all polarity exists as
one thing outside of the physical reality in your whole nature; and that
you do not have to continue seeing yourself as a dichotomy. You do not have
to continue to see yourself as a struggle against, or between, this and
that.

But simply recognize that you have, at any given moment, free will or
preference. If you recognize that the idea of the ingestion of those
substances does not vibrate with the being that you prefer to be, then, if
you act like that being, you will find you do not have the urge; because
you are not of the vibration that would contain the idea to have the urge
to eat this. Define yourself.

Q:  Could that be called will power or...

B:  Not will power; recognition, ceasing of judgment of yourself; ceasing
of the belief; the changing of the belief that changing is difficult.

The changing of the belief that having the concept of what you would prefer
to be is not the same thing as being it - when it is. The changing of the
belief that having the concept still implies you have to do something to
become the concept you have imagined, when imagining it is becoming the
concept; believing that is what will make the change.

Q:  So what is my so-called bad side showing me?

B:  That you have the opportunity to prefer something else; and to
recognize that as soon as you conceive of what that something else is,
you're it.

Q:  So the concept I have of my so-called good side, which I prefer to be,
is not really what I want to be; otherwise I would be it?

B:  You are simply assuming that the concept itself, when you have it, is
not being it. But it is. You are assuming that the concept of the good side
- to have the concept is not being it.
But having the concept is being at the vibratory level of that good side.
Otherwise you wouldn't be able to conceive of it. Again, you have to be
attuned to the program to hear it coming through the radio. So if you find
that you have the ability to even conceive of what the so-called good side,
or positive side, is all about, you are at that moment tuned to that
frequency, or that notion could never have occurred to you.

Q:  But why does this tremendous interference keep coming in...

B:  Because you assume that when you conceive of it, it is not real. You
assume that you have to do something special in order to make it real.

Q:  To stay on the station you mean?

B:  Yes. You are the one that is flipping the dial. When you have flipped
the dial to the point where you can perceive what this so-called positive
side is like, leave the dial there.

Q:  What if I'm sitting there, and suddenly a twinkie switches on.

B:  You are missing the point. The station that you will be tuned to does
not advertise twinkies. So it will never occur to you. The urge won't be
there. Understand you are contradicting yourself.

Q:  Yes. All right.

B:   You are thinking that one being contains both of these urges. No. When
you are the vibration of the positive side, you only contain what is
relevant to that you. If you are finding yourselves experiencing the urges
of the twinkie, you are no longer the other /you;/ you are the /you/ that can
experience the urge of the twinkie.

Q:  Yes. How do you hold that? I find it difficult to hold that.

B:  That is your belief. To say... this is the concept, understand this:
your statement, "I find it difficult to hold that," is a belief. So it is
its own reality. So that is what you get: a reality in which you are a
being that finds it difficult to hold a concept.

Q:  So you merely assume the viewpoint and...

B:  Yes. Act like it. Assume that if you can conceive of it, at the moment
of conception that is /now,/ you are "born." You give birth to that being.
And that is the only being that exists.

Now understand: you may use the idea again that we have shared with some of
you - the library analogy. As an integrated being, you have the ability to
be cognizantly aware of - while still being the concept that you are - of
all the other probable realities that exist, you can have the definition,
"I know myself to be... while at the same time being aware of all of the
other probable realities I know I am not." You follow me?

Q:  Yes.

B:  Therefore, the idea of the analogy is if you are a library. You go into
a library. You can read every book on the shelf: the one about twinkies,
the one positive, the one negative. Only the one you make the conscious
choice to check out of the library becomes your reality. Otherwise it is
not a matter of having to fight against the urge.

You simply have the type of reality that says you can think about the idea
that such a probable reality exists; but that's not the idea you are. You
know the library is there, but you didn't check out that book.

Q:  So the fixity of the human condition, as I see it to be fixed, I see
that most people are...

B:  What you consider to be the fixedness is something that you believe to
be real. That is the only reason you experience the human condition as
fixed - because of the definition that it is. You follow me?

Q:  But what is... at what point do you go off the rails though?

B:  Never.

Q:  But.

B:  Never.

Q:  Let's...

B:  Never, never, never! Never.

Q:  Okay.

B:  You are never off your path, because you are never on a path. A path is
what you are! You can't be off yourself. You are not on a path; a path is
what you are. You can't be off yourself. Everything you do - everything,
everything, is an opportunity to decide what you prefer. Everything. You
can learn from everything.

Every situation is fundamentally neutral. Your attitude towards the neutral
situation will determine the effect that you create in your life. The idea
that you can have an urge to eat a twinkie is a neutral situation. It does
not come with any power other that what you put into it. It is simply a
string of words, if you wish to look at it that way. You empower it; you
power it up.

Q:  "Oh, yes. The concept of that - that concept "twinkie," that creates
urges that I cannot fight."

B:  You have just written the script and decided to act it out - by
imposing definitions on to a fundamentally neutral series of props.

Q:  What is the... how does birth and death fit into this concept though?
Let's say my next-door neighbor doesn't have this urge, and he never has
the urge, but I do have the urge.

B:  So? Knowing that your next-door neighbor never has the urge is an
indication for you of a reality that you can also choose for yourself. That
may be why that neighbor is there, reflecting that reality to you. Perhaps
you are reflecting the same thing back: that he can choose to have an urge
if he wants to.

Q:  ... make good neighbors here. But I guess my question really is: has it
anything to do with a particular lifetime?

B:  Only in the most general of senses. Certainly not with the degree of
specificity of whether you eat a twinkie or not.

Q:  No, well that's a ridiculous example. But I just see people who...

B:  It is not a ridiculous example. But in this way, simply the overall
idea of any predestination is only expressed in physical life in the most
general of terms. In other words, let us say, the idea of what you are
discussing falls under the general category that you are predestined to
explore - of self-empowerment, and the creation of what you prefer.

Q:  I see.

B:  So you are using twinkies as your prop. Somebody else will use alcohol;
somebody else will use drugs; somebody else will use...

Q:  Ice cream!

B:  ... ice cream.

Q:  Do you have dual personas yourselves? Dual personalities? Do you...

B:  Because we have a degree of physical manifestation, then by definition
we do express that portion of ourselves in some polarity. But in this way,
it is a type of polarity that recognizes the validity of each other's side,
and so functions as a balanced unit.

Q:  So as you go up the scale, you check - lose polarity?

B:  In a sense, yes; polarity is only a third-density, fourth-density
perspective of a wholeness that exists.

Q:  I see. Okay. So you're saying that individuals on the third or fourth
density that have that experience of polarity, they're experiencing
positive and negative as if they were two sides of a coin?

B:  Yes.

Q:  But as we move on to the...

B:  You only experience the coin, the idea of the oneness of the coin. And
do not so much see it as two sides. But recognize that you need the whole
coin in order to buy your twinkie.

Q:  Both the positive and negative are in harmony?

B:  Yes.

Q:  Blended into one concept. Male, female: one thing. A soul is not both
male and female; it is neither. It is one thing. It can express itself in
that polarity in physical reality; but it is not that it becomes a blended
thing, separated.

The male/female polarities simply only exist from a physiological reference
point of view, and do not exist within the combined soul. The soul, to
itself, is one thing - neither male nor female. One thing. You follow me?

Q:  So you're saying that neither negative nor positive...

B:  The concept of negative and positive polarity is one of the defining
terms of physical reality and only comes into existence as physical reality
does - or as different levels that contain that idea - come into existence.


The idea of the unbroken oneness is not so much literally that it contains
an actual side-by-side cohesive interaction with the polarities you
experience; it is simply one thing that can create itself to become
different things. For there are many different universes that express the
unbroken wholeness of the soul when it chooses to differentiate itself in
many other ways, /other/ than the idea of simply positive and negative
polarity.

Q:  Like what?

B:  This will really have no frame of reference for you. It almost does not
have a frame of reference for us.  Thank you.

Q:  Thank you.

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