*Pain & Suffering*

Q:  Well, I'm trying to see; but how can death or suffering possibly be
good for me?  How am I supposed to trust that something good is coming out
of all this?  It made me think about other people who have a great deal of
pain.  How can that help us to become better or more advanced?

B:  All right.  The idea, in general, is to understand that no one is
saying you have to have pain.  The whole idea, fundamentally, of having
pain is to learn that you don't ever really have to choose pain again.
However, the idea must also be looked at from a very high perspective.  You
must begin to remember that you are an Infinite Eternal Being.  What
happens in your physical reality is the most temporary of experiences.  And
very often, a being, a consciousness, as soul, if you wish to call it that,
will understand that there is something they wish to experience in life, in
physical reality, and they wish to experience it in a specific way to
accomplish a certain understanding or level of acceleration.

Now, individuals may realize that they need to balance something out. They
may realize that "Well, I could balance this out in small doses, or over
several lifetimes, or I can lump it all into one and be done with it."  The
idea of experiencing what you as a physical being might perceive as very
difficult and deep pain in one lifetime, from that point of view of the
soul might really be nothing more than getting your foot stuck under a
door, having it heal and be done with it.  Do you understand?  You have to
look at it from the big perspective too, not just from the perspective of
the physical reality where things can sometimes seem interminable and not
understandable.  But from the soul's point of view, some individuals will
want to experience a highly concentrated focus in a certain direction which
will then accelerate them that much more quickly in the areas they feel are
important to them.

One of the difficulties is that very often many of you, because of the way
your reality exists, don't remember that you made that choice for that
reason.  So you sit there and question why you are suffering.  But in the
overall scheme of the Oversoul's perspective of the "you" you will be once
you become non-physical again, you will remember at that moment why you
chose that experience, and you will sometimes then be given the opportunity
in the overview to understand all the good that may have been accomplished.

Also remember that sometimes an individual will choose to undergo that kind
of experience in life not from need of their own balance, but so that all
individuals that come in contact with them will learn what they need to
learn in their life.  Understand?  A very advanced, evolved and
unconditionally loving being will sometimes realize that this is something
they are willing to do if other people need to see something in them in
order to learn a lesson that they need to learn in life. These individuals
will accept the idea of a lifetime of pain or momentary pain so that they
can assist other beings to evolve and elevate themselves as well.

Q:  Would this also apply if some souls come back for a very short time,
such as three months or so, to teach others?

B:  Very often, yes.  Now, the idea mentioned earlier of "the foot getting
stuck in the door," to some degree, has an analogy to this.  In the first
example that we gave, the idea may have been that you decided that there
are certain directions you wish to go in and you may have realized that
there might be more than one way to go about it.  You could have
recognized, "Well, the belief systems that I have ingrained in me right
now, for me to go through this particular area, may require another five
years.  I don't prefer that.  Therefore, what would it take to bring my
focus and my attention to a certain point right now that will point me in a
certain direction, where I will then pass through certain ideas and
integrate certain notions and belief systems within me in a much shorter
period of time."

"Well, I know that is one way I could do it.  I could cause myself to have
pain in this one moment of time and that will create the kind of focus that
l need.  Yes, I could do it in other ways, but this appears to be one of
the fastest ways I actually could do it.  Now, I know I don't have to
prefer to choose the pain, but I understand it will only be temporary.  And
the temporary amount of pain I will feel will more than make up for what it
is I will learn by having done it that way.  So I decide; I will choose to
experience that because it will be done and over with.  And that will be
it, I won't have to experience that ever again."  You may have decided to
choose it for that reason.

The point is, your mind will not always know the specifics, the "why" of
the many things you are choosing in life.  The way you help yourself to
have faith in that choice is to understand that it is an opportunity to
extract a positive reality or understanding from that life experience.

See the positive effects ultimately in your life, even if your mind never
really understands exactly how the arrangement or orchestration occurred,
nor for what reason.  At the same time, on the other hand, the idea of
choosing that for yourself can also be an indication that you in fact might
have a certain kind of belief systems or habit patterns or something within
you that you don't prefer to have within you.  You create an experience to
show yourself that you are a little bit out of balance here or there, or
doing something in a way that you don't really prefer to, and so you draw
immediate attention to it in a way you are absolutely guarantee not to
ignore.  Sometimes that is called "pain."

Q:  Thank you.

B:  Thank you.