*Out of Work* Q: I've been getting progressively more depressed from being out of work. The longer I'm out of work, the less trust I have in myself and my ability to find work in something that's going to excite me. B: Then create what excites you to be your job; that's the whole idea. The idea is not to look around, necessarily, for the things that excite you that already exist. If you do not find something, then allow what excites you to become your job. Somebody had to start the jobs that exist in your society. They didn't always exist in the format they exist in now. Someone had to say, "Wait a minute! Look around; the thing that really excites me the most there isn't a job for. I guess I had better start one." And now, at this point in time, you think that's a typical job. But if you look around and do not find something that excites you; if you look around and find that your path simply does not lead you into these things, then allow yourself to truly examine in all honesty what it is that really would be exciting. Take it for granted that you then, if that thing really excites you, and no one else at this point is doing it, or you do not attract into your life an opportunity to do it where it already exists, then take it for granted that your ability to conceive of what it is that excites you the most also represents your ability to create that to be the job that will support you -- automatically. Again, this is a matter of truly trusting that what you come up with, what you really know would excite you in life, you are capable of doing, whether any structure already exists for it or not. If no such structure exists, then it means that because you thought of it, you have the structure inherent within you, and all you have to do is let it out. Let it unfold, and then the reality will be able to build itself on that template structure. But you're not letting it out. Q: I feel so incompetent... B: That means you believe you are. No feeling comes without a belief already being instilled within you. There is no such thing as simply feeling something for no reason, out of the blue. Feelings are not generated out of thin air, out of a vacuum. If you are feeling something, it is because you already believe that something to be true. Feelings are a reaction to a belief; they are secondary to beliefs. Feelings are not the primary experience of reality; beliefs are the primary interface. First you believe something is true; then you get the feeling; then you have the reinforcing thoughts -- which may re-reinforce the belief; and then you regenerate more of the same feelings. But the feeling that you are incompetent comes from the fact that you simply choose to believe you are incompetent. It's your choice to believe that, but you don't have to. Q: I want to let you go of it, and every time I try, I keep getting these voices that tell me, "Remember this time; remember that time when so-and-so happened..." B: Let them come up! So what? You see, you are trying to shut portions of yourself off. You think that when you integrate, you will never hear those voices again. And that's not true; you will always hear those voices. As a matter of fact, the more you integrate, the more you will hear them because you are accepting everything, every way you are, into your life. And those are some of the ways you can exist. They come up not to show you you have failed, not to show you you are stuck, they keep coming up to give you the opportunity to realize how much you must have changed. You don't relate to them the same way you used to unless, of course, you choose to do so. When you say, "Oh well, look, the voices are still coming up. That must mean I have failed; that must mean I'm not doing the right thing the right way," you are choosing to maintain the same relationship with those voices; but you don't have to. The voices are there as an opportunity to realize you can form a different relationship with them. All right, here comes the voice: "Well, remember when this happened that way? Well yes, but so what? That was then; I have learned since then. And because you, oh wonderful voice, have now reminded me of the way I did it then, I have a great and positive opportunity to see how differently I am going to do it now. " You are giving yourself a measure. It is the way to allow yourself to recognize you are going through an evolutionary process, if that's what you believe you must go through. From time to time you may find, well, the voice comes up: "Look, this is the way that happened then." And then you may say, "All right, this time it happened almost the same." But there is the key word. If you are a positive individual, you will lock onto that "almost the same." It was a little bit different, and that's good enough for you, because if it can be a little bit different, it can be a lot different. Next time when the voice says, "Well yeah, but remember when it happened this way," then you can recognize that the last time it was different, and next time it will be more "more different." "So you just keep reminding me, little voice, of the way it was, because when you keep reminding me of the way it was, it gives me an opportunity to see how much more different it's becoming all the time." Everything in your life can be used in a positive way -- even the same old little voices. It's up to your willingness to allow your imagination to work for you. Trust it; have a positive attitude, and that will determine everything. If it's there, use it as a tool. Don't think that just because it's there, it means you've failed. That's your old attitude; that's your old belief. Q: I just get reinforcements from other people in my life telling me also... B: No one can give you reinforcement; you have to accept reinforcement. Q: Well, they're agreeing with the voices... B: So what? The inner reality is the outer reality; it is one and the same. If you have the little voices within you, of course you're going to have the voices outside of you as well. But when you start using those little voices in the way we have just described, then the outer voices will also change. You understand? The inner is the outer reality; the outer is the inner reality. They are not two different things. It is one. As you believe in, so do you see out. As you sow, so you reap. That's what that means. The seeds you plant within yourself are what you see growing in the garden around you. If you do not like the flowers you see growing, then change your order of seed. Plant something different, and then something new will grow. The inner is the outer. If the outer is not the way you prefer it to be, change the inner and the outer will follow. Q: I've worked on saying those things. I guess the belief was still the old one; I didn't get rid of the old belief. B: You cannot get rid of anything. Q: What I said was, "Okay, I can do this, and I can handle the job. " But that belief was still hanging on... B: Listen to the way you sometimes phrase things, as well. Many times the way you phrase things is an indication of the way you really believe. "Okay, I can handle it!" Right there it lets you know the way you are saying it means you think it's overwhelming to begin with. And that's what the real belief is. The belief, therefore, is not really that you can "handle it," because if you knew, beyond the shadow of a doubt that you could, you wouldn't have to convince yourself. If you find yourself using phraseology that indicates you are attempting to convince yourself, then you do not believe it naturally. Let yourself know that you do not have to think twice about something you already own. When you phrase things in that manner, when you say, "All right, I can handle it," then you are indicating that you do not really believe it is handleable. You do not have to "handle" things in that way. You already control everything. Therefore, if situations occur in your life that seem to be non-preferable manifestations, you controlled it for a reason, for a positive reason, into that format. Q: Even though I don't see what the positive reason is? B: Let the positive reason at least be the fundamental reason that you're giving yourself an opportunity to realize you don't have to relate to the scenario the way you used to. And you may be checking yourself to see if you still are. Q: What phrases could I use that would be more beneficial to me? B: "How does this serve me -- exactly the way it is? Exactly the way it is, how does it serve me? What can I learn? How can I positively learn something from this?" When you let it be the way it is, that is when it has the greatest opportunity to change into something else. If you deny the form in which it comes, then you are not allowing yourself to see what is inherent within it. You are not allowing it to present itself in the way you have created it to present itself. You are denying your own creation, your own format. Only when you acknowledge your own format of delivering messages to yourself, exactly and completely the way it comes to you, do you then create the conscious freedom to transform that delivery system into a way you prefer it to come. If you constantly treat your delivery system as if it is malfunctioning, then you are not listening to it. You are thinking something is going wrong within you, and therefore, that's the belief you reinforce. And therefore, that's the cycle you repeat. "Something is wrong; something is wrong!" So of course your reality constantly reflects back to you, "Something is wrong; something is wrong." Everything is just fine. In what you used to consider the most dire circumstances, let yourself realize everything is just fine. "I'm in control of this; look at how much control I have, to have created such an absolutely exciting scenario. Everything seems to be wild and hither and thither and all over the place, and seemingly wild and unconnected and out of control. But since I know I'm controlling that, look at how much power I have." Are you beginning to get the idea? Q: Yes. B: For the only thing you are experiencing is the idea that you have old habits that are difficult to break. If that's where you are coming from, all right: "I have habits that I believe are difficult to change. So if I believe in the idea of habits, then I'll use the idea of habits in a positive way and create positive habits. I am in control of everything. Even when it seems like it's out of control, I'm controlling that." Get used to knowing and believing there is a positive manifestation that can occur from every scenario. With no exceptions! None. Q: I felt like I was, but when I lost my job, I just went down... B: But you see, you assume that not being in that job for some reason has to be an inherently negative scenario. Why make that assumption? It is only an assumption. How do you know what losing that job may be making room for -- perhaps something you would just explode with delight to receive -- that you wouldn't have room to receive if you still had the old job? Trust that when things like that occur in your life, if you know you are doing the best you can do at that moment, and those things still occur, then assume it's for a good reason, and let yourself see how it is for a good reason. Only when you insist that those things occur not for a positive reason, do you then keep the reason from coming to you that would let you see why you lost the job for a positive reason. Because you're sitting there moping on the idea, "Oh well, the only thing I can think of that losing my job means is that it must be negative. Something's wrong." And when you are focused in that way, you can't see the positive side of the coin. You can't see it until you choose to look at it. You have to decide consciously that you will look at the positive side of the coin in every single circumstance, or you will not be able to see positive manifestation. If you are constantly insisting that circumstances are inherently negative, then, "Losing a job must be a bad thing. It has to be; everyone knows that." If that's the way you choose to look at it, that's the way you'll experience your reality. When you insist just as strongly that to lose a job must be leading to a more expanded and broader positive experience, that's what you will get in your life. That's it; it's that simple. Honest! Q: I guess I got impatient, because I did state that. I said that exactly. And what happened was I did get an interview for a job that paid more- B: Yes? And then what? Did you bring back the expectation, "If I don't get this, I'm failing?" Q: Yeah. Then when I blew the interview and I didn't get the job, you know, then I started to go into my old... B: Remove the expectations! It doesn't have to manifest exactly as your ego or your habits think it should. It doesn't have to! Let it manifest along the path of least resistance. Stop fighting yourself. You do not have to push yourself into a mold; you fit exactly where you are. You do not have to conform to a particular idea of what success represents. You are successful exactly as you are. Q: Thank you very much. B: Thank You.