*Multiple Relationships*


Q:  I have two girls whom I'm fond of.

B:  Oh, all right.  I have many.

One moment.

The ideas that we are discussing here have to do with what your society
thinks relationships ought to be and what relationships can be, normally.
Do you follow along?  The idea to understand is that relationships happen
for a reason.  If relationships do happen naturally then you can learn many
things from them.  In other words, if certain things go on that seem
difficult and they are not the product of running away from something then
they can serve a positive purpose.  If the situation you are in is not the
product of denial it can be something which results in much expansion for
all involved.  Are you measuring your present situation against a
particular idea you think ought to be happening instead?  Is there
difficulty being experienced in your situation?  And if so, what type?

Q:  The difficulty is I want to decide on just one.

B:  Why?

Q:  Why?

B:  Yes, why?  This may seem like a strange question to your society but it
is not a strange one to me.  What we are suggesting here is that the idea
of your desire may simply be the result of an expectation rather than a
natural act.  So, why?  Are you suggesting that things would be easier if
you could make a decision?

Q:  [silence]

B:  Do you not feel like talking about this?  I'm not here to force what
you do not want to discuss.  This does not have to be complex.  What are
you experiencing right now?  What is your hesitation?

Q:  Talking on this topic in front of so many people.

B:  No, you're all alone.  These [indicating the audience] are all aspects
and extensions of you.  You are simply in a room full of mirrors.  But they
are all tilted at various angles and all the different reflections look
slightly different from one another.  So, speak freely; it is just you
talking out loud.  No one will judge you.  For understand, if they judge
you they lower their vibration to the same level.

Q:  I feel as if I cannot run away from them, either of them, and I want to
know where this feeling comes from?

B:  Well thank you very much.  First of all, you are obviously connected to
both of them very strongly.  Running away would only be a denial of the
relationships you naturally attracted.  Understand that if you really
believe you are functioning with full integrity to the best of your
ability, then if both relationships still remain, then that's the natural
result.

In our civilization we do not place expectations on how relationships
should manifest.  We allow them to be what they are, not what we think they
"ought" to be.  Because when relationships are allowed to be what they are
they always work themselves out flawlessly.  Now, we understand that there
may be an idea in your civilization that relationships should occur in a
specific way.  But you see, there may be many things that you need to learn
from different individuals and not necessarily just one.

In our civilization every individual is, in a very real way, "married" to
every other individual and the relationships that occur within our society
all happen within "The Marriage;" because all our relationships are allowed
to happen in an open, honest and loving way.  Therefore, if more than one
happens at the same time, we know there must be a reason for it.  We do not
see multiple relationships as mutually exclusive; we see them as mutually
enhancing.  Of course, it requires that open and honest communication occur
between all individuals involved.

But you see, we do not necessarily place an assumption that one individual
may find only one individual to spend their entire life with.  It can
happen that way, but we do not expect that it must.  If one individual has
a relationship with only one other individual during the
entire life span -- we don't know that until we reach the end of that life
span.  We get to the end of the life span and look back upon our lives and
say, "Well, no one else came along. I guess that was a one-on-one, wasn't
it?" [audience laughter]  So the idea, first of all, is to ask yourself, do
you enjoy both relationships and do you still learn something from both of
them?

Q:  Yes.

B:  Well, then.  Allow yourself to allow them to teach you what they need
to teach you; allow yourself to continue to be of service to those
individuals.  All things work themselves out with unconditional love.  It
is only the expectations of how you think you ought to be acting that is
creating the confusion and the difficulty.  Relax.  Understanding that you
created the situation will allow you to learn from it what you need to, to
allow it to change in the way that is most beneficial for all individuals
involved.  And thank you very much for the boldness of your sharing.

Q:  Thank you.