Judging Others Q: Sometimes when I'm alone, I feel everything wonderful about me. I mean, I feel the powers and I feel clear... B: Yes. Q: ...and then I open the door of my house and I walk outside, and I feel affected by everybody else's reality. B: May I make a suggestion? Q: I would like that. B: Recognize you are never outside, EVERYTHING you see is from within, everything. It is your entire house and you have decided to co-create it. If you wish to give your power away to someone else and assume that /their/ projected reality has more validity than the one you prefer, so be it. But that comes from within and it is a self-judgement; and it is your opportunity to recognize that you do not have to judge yourself so harshly. Q: Well, I'm not happy with that, I mean I.... B: You are not happy with yourself? Q: I'm not happy, I mean people around me... there are some people that I don't like and I'm not.... B: Why? Do they exhibit things that you do not like within yourself? Q: Perhaps, I haven't thought about that, in that way. B: Recognize this idea, as long as you choose to judge another individual's method of learning what they have chosen to learn, you will be attaching yourself to that mode of learning and becoming the same vibration. "Judge not lest ye be judged," does not mean that you are being judged from someone else outside, it means, as you tune into the vibration of invalidating another's path, you invalid yourself. And you attach yourself /immediately/ to that type of a scenario and so feel that same wave vibration. By simply recognizing that you know what you prefer and that what you see /around/ you is simply an observation of what others have chosen for themselves, then that allows you to know that even though you can observe it, it does not affect the vibration you chose to be, unless you chose to let it and create to for yourself. You can ONLY experience someone else's vibration when you choose to create your own version of it for you, that is the only way you can experience anything. You must chose to create it for yourself by becoming the same idea. And that is why you feel it, because you are judging it. Q: I don't enjoy it at all. B: Then don't recognize the vibration as anything that has to do with your reality. Understand, you are making the assumption that enjoying something or not enjoying it is something you have no control over. But you are choosing your point of view. Understand the difference between judgment and preference. Judgement is the invalidation of what you do not prefer. Preference is simply recognizing what is true for you, and by being that vibration and allowing equality for all other choices. Then you will be allowing yourself to experience the support of All That Is in granting you the right to feel as you do, within the vibration you have described and defined yourself to be. You will never feel the effect of anyone else's choice. Only by making an attachment to them do you identify with them and create that vibration for yourself. That is the only way you can create a lack of enjoyment, by creating the vibration for yourself you see in them. Just because they are doing it doesn't mean you have to feel it. You follow me? Q: Yes I do, thank you. I have one other question. B: Yes. Q: Is it true that we choose our parents? B: Yes. Q: And do we find out at some point why we choose these particular.... B: That is up to you and is it up to the purpose, it does not have to be conscious. Simply recognize in this way, many individuals are always looking for a specific purpose, rather than allowing what is going on in their lives to be a reflection of the purpose, and simply get on with their lives. Q: I see, that's true. B: Thank you. Many individuals will choose, in your particular society, to interact with other individuals that will seem to be disharmonious with them, because that gives an individual the opportunity to have something to push against, to become the idea they wanted to be. Therefore, they can recognize that in choosing certain parents they have created an /environment/ out of which they have allowed themselves to explore the idea they have choose to be, so the parents have been of service even while consciously not seeming to have been of service. You follow me? Q: Yes. B: Thank you. Q: Why do we need something to push against in order to be the idea? B: Because that is the way you have created your society to be. You do not, at least up to this point, usually believe that you are self- empowered. So you create reflections that allow you, in a sense, to force yourself into situations where you have to become self-empowered. It is all simply because you have created the idea of forgetting who you are, but this is in your terms, the tail end of that cycle. You do not need that any more and all relationships can be from this point forward quite harmonious. Q: By granting validity to everyone's path, is there ever a point where someone you care for and believe is in danger of harming themselves and... B: You can share with them your point of view as to what a possible result might be of their actions, but granting them validity is simply knowing that you cannot convince them of anything they do not choose to be convinced of anyway. But you are willing to share a view that at least then lets them know that should they decide, "well wait a minute I would like to choose something else. What did my friend say? Maybe I'll try that." At least you will be giving them the opportunity to recognize what options are available to them. That is how you can assist them. Q: Just by gently sharing ideas without.... B: Lovingly, knowing beyond a shadow of a doubt that once again, fundamentally, no matter what they choose ultimately they are still all right, because you are eternal, indestructible. You exist now and you always will. Because now always exist, existence is always now. You always have existed, you exist now and always will, because you are All That Is. You follow me? Q: Yes. B: You only transform from idea to idea. Thank you, sharing!