*Healing Relationships And Trusting In Your Life* Q: I've had a very difficult relationship with my father, and he represents the idea of an alcoholic... B: All right. Q: ... and not having been very loving and supportive. Understandably, um... therefore, I have been working on building my own strength and my own love... B: All right. Q: ... through meditation, but I was wondering if you could help me to understand the purpose of this relationship. B: Can be as simple as you just stated: to allow you to build your own strength and unconditional love, at least on your end. Once you have allowed that individual to reflect to you your opportunity to be self-empowered and know that you are complete in this way, you can then reflect back to them their own self-empowerment, which can allow them to take responsibility for their life BACK into their control and not put responsibility on a symbolic tool - the drug. You follow me? Q: Yes. B: You are serving each other. ALLOW what that individual is doing to be of service to you. And THEN once you allow yourself to know that you have gotten the idea that you are self-empowered, in that way, you can express unconditional love for ALL the different ways that any individual may choose to live their life. Being that all ways are equal, then you can take upon yourself the opportunity to continue your OWN recognition of your self- empowerment without needing THEM to be something AGAINST WHICH you are PUSHING to DELVELOP that ability within yourself. You can then say: "I am under my own steam, thank you for your reflection, thank you for your barrier, thank you for your wall that I pushed against to arrive where I am. Now I am under my own power and I will REFLECT the knowledge back to you that YOU ALSO are under your own power; that I have unlimited, unconditional faith and love in you, that whatever you choose is exactly what you need to choose to learn what you have decided to learn." Therefore, by offering you the opportunity to be able to learn what you are learning in another way, you give them the opportunity to CHOOSE another way, rather than what you perceive to be a destructive, negative way. You follow me? Q: Yes. B: Thank you. Will that have served you? Q: Yes, but I had one more question. B: All right. Q: While I'm working on this empowerment to the fullest potential... B: Now, may I remind you of something? Q: Yes. B: It is at its fullest potential right now and always will be. You are only allowing yourself to remember this - that is what you mean by "working at it," but you do not have to struggle. Q: Okay. B: It is simply - remembering. Relax...you KNOW that when you are TRYING to remember something, it is when you relax that you remember it. Q: Right. That's correct. B: So relax, and you will be at your full potential. Q: Can I still ask my question? B: Of course. (Much laughter) Q: As I relaxed, my dilemma has been... B: Your what? Q: Oh, my situation... B: Yes, your fundamentally neutral situation. (Much laughter) Q: My situation, let's see, has been deciding how to approach the relationship and how to deal with him. B: Unconditional love. Q: Okay. B: If you are unconditionally loving, then you are granting SUPPORT and UNDERSTANDING to the relationship; and you will allow it to bolster itself upon that support, and reach the understanding you require. You follow me? Q: Yes. B: Thank you. Q: Thank you. B: Allow yourself to know that it is serving you - it is not an interruption in your path - it is how you choose to interact. Let it serve you; then you can allow him to let himself, let it serve him as well, through your example of allowing this situation to serve you. You can show him how it can serve him, and he can choose another way to learn whatever it is he is learning. You follow me? Q: Yes. B: Thank you. Q: Thank you. B: Sharing! Q2: So another situation, just to expand on that a little bit, then the individual that's abusing alcohol or drugs or whatever... B: Yes. Q2: They're at a point that they need to go through that to learn certain lessons. B: They obviously believe they need to go through that. It is not that they REALLY NEED to go through that; it is that they believe they need to go through that. There is no need for anyone to go through anything, unless they believe they need to. Does that clarify the idea? Q2: Yes, thank you. B: Thank you. Sharing! Q3: You've talked from the beginning until now on one subject: abundance, magnetic fields, doorways, galaxies, problems...one thing is just acceptance... B: Situations, allowance. Q3: Well, whatever word. Acceptance. B: Yes. Q3: Okay, and you talk about accepting, that we accept our powers in our lives, in our universe, and in our lessons, in our problems... B: Yes. Q3: ... situations. B: Yes. Q: All right, this is fine, but what do you do, what would you suggest as the possibility when you don't look at it as a situation, but you look at it as a problem? How do you go inside of yourself to learn that this is just an accepted lesson? Or this is an accepted situation? B: In whatever way your imagination tells you to. Q: How do you see this? What is a way of seeing it? What is a suggestion? How to handle, how to... B: You want me to give you a specific exercise? Q3: Something that would help me go down inside of myself and see that this is a lesson. B: All right, may I ask you a question? Q3: Yes. B: For now, before I share something with you, how do you imagine you could do that? Pretend. Q3: Well, I tried it in different spheres, different times... B: All right. Q3: ... and different levels. B: Yes. Q3: And there are problem situations that you come against, that you know that you haven't been given a larger problem than you can handle... B: All right. Q3: Okay. But, you can't see it... B: BUT? Q3: BUT! ...You can't seem to get pass the point of letting go, accepting. B: Perhaps because you are judging what you are getting to not be a part of the process? Q3: Umm. B: How about that? Q3: Stepping back from? B: Allowing yourself to know that WHATEVER it is that is happening IS a part of the process; not an interruption in what you feel to be a problematic situation, a block; something that lets you feel you are not going where you need to go to SOLVE your problem. But understand: what you are being given is ALWAYS the exact thing you need to be given. Many times you will judge that what you are being given is NOT what you need to be given, and then it will take the form of a seeming block, simply because of what you are being given is a direction you did not EXPECT, and therefore, you do not think the direction is valid, according to how your ego thinks you should discover the answer to your question. It is a matter of trust. It is all trust, and it ALL comes down to that one concept - trust. Trust is all there is. That is the ONLY thing you need to allow yourself, in this way, to recognize and realize ANY answer to ANY question. Trust. Are you following along? Q3: Yes, sir. B: Sir? Q3: Sir. I'm from Texas, what do you expect? (Laughter) B: All right, Ma'am. In this way, you may simply recognize that many individuals, when they come upon a so-called BLOCK, are simply not allowing themselves to recognize that it is actually a brightly lit sign, saying: "NOW IS THE TIME TO GO LEFT, TO GO RIGHT." But many individuals, allowing their ego to be in the driver's seat, say: "No, no, no, I must go straight ahead." Exactly at that moment, because your higher self knows that the way to go is NOT straight ahead, but to the left, or to the right - and that is why the sign is there, at that moment that you become stubborn, the sign changes into a brick wall. Now, you can stand there as long as you like and beat your head into it, if you enjoy that sort of thing, or you can allow yourself to say: "All right, this is an unexpected direction." What you will allow yourself to do, by moving in that unexpected direction, is to recognize that AT THAT MOMENT, going left, or going right, is exactly the way to go straight ahead. Expectation is what says, "It's got to be like this, or nothing." Allowance is what says, "It can be this way, it can be." And that is what, paradoxically, gives you the sensation that all of this is actually this, when you assume the way you want to go through your ego gratification that says, "It must be this or nothing," that is when this becomes this, because you are not going with the flow of what may be an unexpected direction - but it is the direction, nonetheless, that you need to go in. It is trusting that WHATEVER, WHATEVER, and I mean WHATEVER your imagination comes up with, at that moment, is EXACTLY what you need to...here's the word - ACT- upon to allow yourself to continue that journey and understand the idea of yourself. Is any of this making sense? Q3: Yes. Is what you are saying then, that in this trust, we trust in ourselves? B: You trust that the universe has provided you with ALL ingredients necessary to be completely, at any given moment, any idea you desire to be. And you trust that being a part of the universe you are able to function AS all of the activation principles in the universe, in that way. Utilizing them, allowing them to flow through you, so that you flow through life. LIFE is the ONLY process you need, to live more life. When you allow yourself to know that nothing that occurs in your life is an interruption in your path, but allow yourself to trust that no matter what is occurring, it is a PART of the path you choose to be, then you will allow yourself to gain and gather the actual experience of seeing how the situation IS a part of the path you chose to be. You may look at it, as we have said many times, like this: A PATH IS NOT WHAT YOU ARE ON, A PATH IS WHAT YOU ARE. YOU CAN'T BE OFF OF YOURSELF. Everything that occurs in your life is a part of your path by definition. You cannot have anything in your life that is not a part of your path - by definition. There are no extraneous events in creation. You follow me? Q3: Yes. B: Does this act as some sort of assistance to you? Q3: Yes. Thank you. B: Thank you very much for the willingness to express your unique methodology and the path that you are. For in your sharing, many individuals will allow themselves to glean, for themselves, their own approach to a similar idea; for recognize, if you are present in the asking of a question, or the sharing of a statement, then there is a reason why you are present. Nothing is extraneous, if you are there to hear it, you can use it. You can ask the same question that is being asked by somebody else, and apply it to your own path. Or you can share, and state to yourself, the same statement being made by someone else, and apply it to your own path, and you will have your own unique manifestation of how that idea applies to you. In that way, nothing that anyone asks, and nothing that anyone shares, will ever be boring; for everything that you are present to perceive applies to you, or you wouldn't perceive it. Thank you. Sharing.