Bashar: Channeled by Darryl Anka
From "Negotiation and Resolution"
6-27-97

Healing Conflict

Now, many times, in conversations on your planet, as we have observed your
people, there will be opportunities over and over and over again that will
call for, what you call negotiation and resolution. In many cases, because
of the portions of your consciousness that have been trained within you to
be hidden, there will sometimes be agendas within you that you will not
even necessarily consciously know about.  So that when you go about the
business of negotiating for what you believe is supposed to be the
resolution, you may find yourself at odds with the individuals you are
negotiating with; because you may be on one particular track, as you say,
thinking that you are both going in the same direction, when in fact you
are even sometimes heading in opposite directions.  Because you may not
necessarily be aware of what your own hidden agendas are -- and what it is
you actually think you're negotiating for.

What kind of an outcome or a resolution you think you're supposed to have
may be diametrically opposed to the belief systems and definitions and
resolutions that the other individual or individuals believe they are
supposed to have.  Now sometimes, of course, many of you know you have
different agendas, but will, for one reason or another - again usually
because of emotional hidden agendas -- insist on sticking to the kind of
resolution you desire, in fact, many times, demand; and will not
necessarily accept that a resolution has been created, unless, to put it
simply, you get your way.  The idea, however, is to understand, because
many of these hidden agendas exist, and because many of these hidden
agendas will color the way in which you go about creating a so-called
resolution, you may find, of course, that you will not come to a resolution
because of that coloration.

The idea in all negotiation, in all desire for resolution, is to really
focus on the idea of resolution itself as a concept, before you focus on
the idea of exactly how, specifically, such a resolution must be
accomplished.  In other words, if you make not your own agenda the
priority, but the idea of coming to a resolution at all the priority, that
that is your primary concern -- that you do in fact come to some kind of
resolution, no matter how you get there.  Then, by allowing the idea, the
concept, the desire for resolution itself to be primary, you can allow the
concept of resolution to guide the methodologies and guide the details
about how you come to the resolution, rather than making the resolution
subservient, and in a sense, secondary to the idea of what you think you're
supposed to get out of it.

When you focus on the idea that the primary reason for being in the
negotiation is to come to a resolution somehow -- that the resolution is
paramount -- then that desire, that focus, will help you search for more
ways to achieve a resolution  than you might otherwise have been willing to
look at.  Because you may have been focused on your own hidden agenda,
which in many cases, by definition, would be relatively limited, as far as
all the different ways that a resolution could be created.  So focus on the
resolution itself as the main goal of any negotiation, that coming to a
resolution is the primary agenda, regardless of how you get there.  And you
will find yourself, with that in mind, first of all, having a common point
with the other individual -- if you can both agree that coming to a
resolution is more important exactly than how you get there; you're
already in agreement on something, and that is a good beginning to any
negotiation and any resolution.

We thank you for allowing us to reflect this concept to you, at this time,
and to share with you our perspective on this particular matter. Again, it
is always up to you, as to whether or not to pay attention, and/or apply
this information.  We're only sharing with you what works with our
civilization, and leaving it up to you to decide what works for you.  But I
do, from experience in our world, know that this will aid, and assist, and
accelerate any and all negotiations and resolutions that you may actually
desire to undertake, if you will but be willing to apply this methodology
and this principle, and this priority, in that fashion.