*Family Agreements*


Q:  I have been impressed with your wisdom tonight.

B:  Mine! It's yours. It's ours together.

Q:  Thank you. I am the mother of two very fine teenage girls.

B:  All right.

Q:  And I would like very much to hear your views on parenting.

B:  All of them?

Q:  As many as we have time for.

B:  All right. First of all, do remember and recognize that you do make
agreements to be in the families you are in. The children agree to be born
to you; you agree to have them born to you, and so on and so forth. For
they are there, again, for a reason. No accidents, no accidents. You have
been closest to - in many different lifetimes - perhaps, taking turns:
being the parent, being the child, being the cousins, being the relatives.
You follow me?

Q:  Of course.

B:  Being the friends, being the business relations. In this way,
therefore, allow yourself to recognize that, in any given moment, if you
simply allow yourself to be the fullest possible being you know you are,
you will then be fulfilling, in the best possible way, your part of the
agreement. You will be being the person they agreed to be born to. And then
you will show them, in no uncertain terms - as an example, as a reflection
- that they can also be the individuals that agreed to be born to you.

And you do not have to play the idea of any games of definitions. You can
simply trust - unconditionally and implicitly - that what you will reflect
to them will allow them to be who they are, and what they reflect to you
will allow you to be who you are. And together, who you are will naturally
blend and work and mesh, and will not create conflict. You follow me?

Q:  I do.

B:  Does that assist you?

Q:  It certainly does.

B:  Anything else?

Q:  No, thank you very much.

B:  Thank you.