Falling in Love


Q:  There's many things I want to do in life and lots of people I want to
interact with but I profoundly believe it won't work for me.

B:  And why do you prefer to profoundly believe that it won't?

Q:  I think to please my parents.

B: To please your parents, all right.  Then do, a favor.  Tell them to live
your life for you.  Because obviously you don't want to live it for
yourself; you want to live it for them.

Q:  That's true, yeah.

B:  Yes.  Do you not know that you can really mean it when you say, "l
really do love you mom and dad - AND I'm going to do what gives me joy."
You know you can mean it.  You do not have to feel you're not loving them,
that you're not respecting them, just because you want to be who you are.

Q:  This is true.

B:  Yes, it's true.  Now what is the most exciting version of the thing
that excites you the most that you want to do?

Q:  Well, I wanted to ask you, I'm exploring gratefulness in my life.

B:  Yes.

Q:  I just feel it very deeply; it's overwhelming but not in a bad way. And
I just want to explore "what" to be grateful to?

B:  To All That Is.

 Q:  Yes, l am.

B:  And to yourself, which is of course All That Is.  The One is All, the
All is One.  Gratitude in that sense is simply a vibration.  It is one of
the ways to express the concept of excitement.  Remember again, excitement
is simply the reflection of being aligned with All That Is and it can be
expressed and felt in many ways.

The concept that you are calling gratitude is one of the manifestations of
simply being aligned with All That Is and allowing yourself to truly feel
the Unconditional love in which you were created, from which you were
created -- what you are made of -- the Unconditional Love that constantly
pours forth from All That Is.  When you align with that, that is the
feeling you call gratitude.  You understand?

Q:  Yes.

B:  That you reflect that love -- is the expression of gratitude.

Q:  Okay, do you personally say, "Thank you All That ls?"  Or do you break
it down in different ways?  Like do you suddenly feel grateful? Or is it
just going on there all the time?

B:  There are always a variety of expressions but we recognize that all of
the expressions are different forms of the same thing.

Q:  Okay that kind of leads me to the second part.  I was wondering about
romance.  Do you get smitten or romantic or are you just generally all in
love?

B: Smitten?

Q: Yeah.

B: There can be what you might term an instantaneous recognition of a
particular alignment or a connection to another being.  And if you wish to
say that is being smitten, then yes.  I suppose that is possible. But
simply, All That Is is an instant recognition of an alignment of
vibrations, in a sense.  You understand?

Q:  I know you are unconditionally loving but I wonder if it separates into
a romantic love like we do?
B:  In a sense, that can be an expression.  We do not really see that so
much as a separation but simply another creative way of expressing the
unconditional love.

Q:  So you do it... how?

B:  Again, what you might call romantic love for yourself might be an
extremely different concept from what you would recognize occurring in our
world.

Q:  Yeah, I was wondering about that, if you had romance that... well, do
you know what romance is here?  I was wondering if you had a form of it
there?  Romantic love?

B:  Will, you define one expression for me that you would refer to as
"romantic love?"

Q:  Well, I guess it's when you completely forget about yourself and you're
constantly thinking about the other person.

B:  That's romantic?

Q:  You do crazy things.  That's a tough question.  I guess it wasn't fair
to ask you that.

B:  Oh, it's always fair to ask anything.  I think I will put it this way.
I begin to understand a little bit about what you mean by that.  Once again
do remember, even in our romance we are children.  And thus, in a sense, we
are always in love.  If you wish to call that being romantic then by all
means go ahead.  But I do not necessarily think that you would see exactly
the same kind of expression that you might call on Earth romantic love,
except in certain circumstances. Not everything that you might think of as
being romantic love would necessarily actually be being in love.

However, we are constantly in love.  We are very spontaneous about it.  We
can serve the other person unconditionally and fully.  As for the concept
of forgetting about ourselves we can never really do that but I understand
what you mean.  Since we trust absolutely, implicitly and unconditionally,
in that sense, yes, we do not have to think about it.  We simply do it.  We
are not self-conscious in the sense that you usually mean it.  So yes, I
suppose you could say it is a free flowing spontaneous romantic love.
Constantly.  Does that help?

Q:  Yes.  Thank you.

Allow yourself to relax into this recognition, a recognition of
synchronicity.  No one, no one comes into your life before or after they
are ready to.  You enter no one else's life at an inopportune timing.  All
timing is flawless, perfect and absolutely representative of whoever it is
all the individuals in that meeting are at that given moment.  So you don't
have to rush through anything. You don't have to try to convince anyone of
anything.  You wouldn't be together if they didn't have something to learn
from you and if you didn't have something to learn from them.

Allow yourself to stand back.  Here's your meditation: truly observe the
reflections that are going back and forth.  See what it is you are doing as
a service for each other.  What is it they are learning from you?  What is
it they are seeing about themselves by looking at you that they need to
see?  What is it you are seeing about yourself in them that you need to see
to learn who you want to be?  Stand back from the idea of communication in
the way you're used to looking at it and understand that the relationship
of you and any other being is not two different separate ideas.  It is one
whole event of which you and other people are reflections.  Let yourself
see what the whole event is and let the relationship be what it is for; not
what you think it ought to be.

Allow yourselves to remember you are not the same people you were before we
started today.  You are now ready to create creative relationships.  Not
that your relationships have not been creative, but now they can be
creatively positive and you can apply this to any relationship in your
life; you can apply this understanding to expand on anything.  If you
already have an ecstatic relationship then simply let us play together.
There is always more to learn and that means we can all play together
forever.  I don't know about you but that kind of relationship makes us
very happy.

Q:  Including myself, many people have reached the age to get married but
many of them are not married yet.  It's almost becoming a trend.

B:  Yes.  And so?  What do you think it is a trend of?

Q:  There's a fear within me that my marriage might not work.  And I don't
want to get a divorce right after the marriage; I see so many people doing
that nowadays.

B:  Perhaps a different definition of marriage might be necessary then.  It
is true that some individuals have attracted themselves into a certain
relationship that they do need but they may just be assuming that the
ritual has to be attached to it.  Every member of my society is married to
every other member of my society.  We are all in a marriage.  If we then
interact with different individuals in the span of our lives all of those
interactions take place within the overall marriage.  Now some individuals
may meet and may interact in a specific way with only each other for the
duration of their lifetimes.  Many other individuals may interact with
several other individuals in much the same way throughout the lifetime.

But there is no right and wrong way that "should" occur.  I am not saying
that your society must adopt the system that my society uses but there are
aspects of the energy of your society that are heading in that direction.
It is a re-evaluation of what the whole idea of a relationship is supposed
to be for.  While we are having this conversation, you and I, for the
duration of this conversation you and I are married.  In a sense you can
say you and I all of you and us will always be married, even though the
definition of the relationship may change. If - IF -- it is natural that
the relationship should change form then it is only wise to allow it to do
so in love.  We do not place in our society any expectation on the duration
or style of any particular relationship since they are all cherished and
all created in unconditional love.

Now the paradox is when you allow a relationship to exist from
unconditional love without expectation, it will then have a tendency to
change and last a long time together.  But if you worry about the concept
of change before you even attract the relationship, then you are divorced
before you are even married.  So you are in a sense "divorced" right now,
because you are worrying about divorce; you are divorced before you even
get married.  Relax your definitions of continuity in this matter.  One
does not have to come before the other.  Relationships are for the purpose
of serving each other to allow each other to be the fullest person you can
each be.  If this is truly done with unconditional love for each other then
any change that occurs will be a change made in love and will not in any
way, shape or form have a negative effect in your life.  Do you understand
this concept?

Q:  Yes.

B:  Say, "I do."  Say it.

Q:  Yes.  I do.

B:  I now pronounce you married to yourself.  Which is the first and
primary marriage that must occur before you can feel that you are married
to anybody else.  You must love yourself unconditionally and trust what you
attract into your life so that you can share as an equal. At the same time,
I also pronounce that you are now married to every single person in your
society.  However, the relationships that occur in your life, be they
single or multiple, will all be within the definition of /The Marriage/ that
your society is together.  You may prefer one particular style over another
but if you do -- prefer it from your natural self, not from the ritual that
society says you should be expected to do.  After all, you don t want a
normal marriage.  You want a /natural/ marriage.  Understand?

Q:  Yes.

B:  Thank you very much.

Q:  It's nice being married to you too, but I'd still like to attract one
human being on this planet.

B:  Then if that is your preference, as we have already said, it can happen
that way.  But first -- you must be unconditionally in love with who you
are.  Understand?