*Expressing Who You Are* Q: Hi. B: Hi. Q: I've been noticing various things about my victimhood... B: All right! (What?) Q: ... for the lack of a better word. B: Oh, that was a perfect word. He said "victimhood" ... and spoken like a true victim. Q: Hey, thanks. B: Perfectly done. Masterful! Masterful! Q: Right. So I've been noticing the repetitive things about this drama that I've been going through -- the negative emotion and the rest of it. B: All right. All of that is the product of judgment, however. There is no true negative emotion. Q: Okay. So I'm feeling these strong judgments against myself. B: All right. Why? Q: I don't know. B: All right. Q: That's sort of what I wanted to ask you. B: Well, it all dovetails into the understanding that obviously, on some level, you don't believe you deserve happiness. Why not? Q: Well, I don't know. B: What would you have to be... let's use your imagination for a moment if you are willing. All right? Q: Okay. B: What would you have to be like in order to deserve happiness? Can you give me a description, a definition? Q: Sure, that's pretty easy. B: Oh, all right. Very good! Q: I guess my consideration of what it would be... to be more of a man. B: More of a man? Q: Sure, More courageous, for example. B: More courageous! Can women not be courageous? Q: Oh, sure. Just to be more courageous... B: All right, more courageous! Q: Not necessarily more of a man. B: What is courageous? Define. Q: Being willing to risk... B: Risk! One moment. Now that may be what is stopping you right there. If you think that being courageous must involve a risk, then perhaps you are barking up the wrong definition. Why must being courageous involve a risk -- the willingness to experience something unpleasant? Q: Well, I haven't thought that I had that desire. B: Then why must you create it? Of what purpose and what need will creating a desire to experience unpleasantness serve you in? You see, you may be making the assumption, again, based upon beliefs that doing the things you desire to do involves risk, and will bring about unpleasantness -- but they don't have to. That's only your belief that says they do. Q: All right. B: Why do you believe that doing what you want will bring unpleasantness and bring risk? Is there something specific you desire to do that you are not doing -- for fear of the risk and fear of the unpleasantness that you believe must be there? Q: I guess to stand up to certain individuals in certain situations. B: Stand up to them? Q: Say what I feel like saying. B: All right. And again -- now here is a very important point, as we sense in your energy -- you have bought into the belief that by saying what you are will immediately involve a conflict. No conflict is necessary. None. None. None. A tree that stands up for itself and speaks nothing but its own "treeness" will nevertheless bend in a wind. That is a part of being a tree -- if it wishes to remain one. Q: Beautiful. B: You follow me? Q: Sure. B: Therefore, the idea of expressing who you are in no way means that anyone else will have the ability to break you in their response. You will state who you are, you will listen to whom they are, as the tree will allow the wind to pass through it and around it. But you will bend with the idea, acknowledging that they have just as much of a right to be who they are, and they may choose to express themselves, perhaps, in a belligerent or negative way. That doesn't mean that their choice of expression has to affect you, or that you have to buy into the idea that you must feel like there is conflict. The only reason you feel that there might be conflict is because you believe in conflict. You believe that there is always a struggle to find the One Overall Truth! There is no One Overall Truth -- except the fact that you all exist. Period. That's is the only thing that's common for everyone in existence. "The" truth is composed of all truths. Therefore, state your case. It is equally valid and an equal point of view to anything anyone else could say -- because you exist. And because you exist, then obviously, in the eyes of the Infinite Creator, you are equal to any other creation that exists. So all you need to do is recognize that you did not have to do anything special to deserve existence. Infinite Creation obviously believes that you deserve existence without having to have done anything special in order to earn it. So why not treat yourself with the same respect and love, and simply recognize that, as you choose to express who you are, you are expressing your version of how you have been created and how you have chosen to co-create yourself to be; and that you are just as valid as anything, or you wouldn't exist. And then when you get the return response, simply absorb what works for you, and what doesn't work for you; let it pass over you like the wind. You follow me? Q: Yes, I think so. B: Does this assist you? Q: It does, yes. B: We thank you very much. Q: Thanks. B: Love yourself as unconditionally as Infinite Creation loves you, for you are made of love -- literally. Sharing!