*Creative Relationships*


Part II


Cont.

The only reason you would have to attract many relationships to show what
you are not is that you have either forgotten who you are, or are afraid to
face who you are.  Who you naturally are is your balanced state and the
Universe always attempts to create balance. Therefore, if you resist being
your natural balanced self, the real you, you will always attract
relationships that give you the best opportunity to remind yourself of what
you believe most strongly.  Doing it by resisting who you are will usually
attract relationships that are not necessarily fulfilling,, or
relationships that you have to work very hard at.

Being fully who you are will usually attract relationships that reflect
back to you the fullness of your creative being.  However, even when you
are doing what excites you the most, you can still attract individuals who
"may have a lot to learn," as you say.  And you might say, "Well, how does
this individual reflect to me my excitement in life?"  But you see,
sometimes you make agreements to assist other individuals to find
themselves as well.  Then you attract them into your life so you can be a
shining example to them of what they can also be, or they attract you into
their lives to be a shining example of what you can be.

But if you approach this kind of relationship from a negative point of view
you might say, "You' re not good enough for me," or "l'm not good enough
for you."  When you understand you cannot be in a relationship unless the
agreement is of a similar vibration, you will not have to invalidate what
is going on.  And then you can simply be who you are, understanding that
whoever you attract is who is supposed to be there at that moment.  That
does not always mean it will be only one individual; at times there can be
more than one relationship going on, even on the same level.

In our civilization, we view all relationships as being mutually enhancing,
not mutually excluding.  Very important point to follow: as long as all of
those relationships are created with integrity they enhance each other.  If
multiple relationships or even single relationships are created from
dishonesty and secrecy, then they act as exclusive energies.

But if you know that, to the best of your ability, you are acting as a
loving individual and you have open and honest communication with all
individuals involved, and these relationships still occur in multiple forms
-- then they are representative of your natural self.  Every individual
can, through open and honest communication, understand the existence of all
other individuals in the various relationships.

Very often one individual will be in relationship with two other
individuals and will think they have nothing to do with each other.  But
almost anyone you are emotionally involved with in this life you have been
involved with in other lives before.  It's very common and very probable
that the other individuals you're involved with may actually have known
each other before, in that sense.  And perhaps, by both of them knowing the
same individual, there are things they are all agreeing to work out among
themselves by being a different kind of family unit.

Now, individuals can attract, what you call, a "one-on-one" for the
duration of a life span; it certainly can happen that way.  But if you know
you're acting within integrity and all members in the relationship are
acting within integrity and a change naturally occurs, then that change
belongs in the relationship.  Fear of change is usually fear of losing
something.  But if you understand everything is happening as it needs to,
then you do not have to fear losing anything.  It is usually only the fear
of the change that does not allow you to change with the other person.

Very often many individuals will think that they must allow only one
particular person in their lives.  So from the other point of view, you may
find that you are the one that changes, and the other person does not want
you to change.  You recognize that the change is natural and important to
you, but you may still have it in your mind that you still want to be with
the other person -- even though they do not want to change and do not want
you to change.

But understand, if you have a desire that the other person change in order
to stay with you then you can recognize the following thing: if they do
decide to change -- it's not the same person anyway. Therefore, you are not
in a relationship with the same person you used to be with; they are a new
person.  So there really is not necessarily so much need of it being the
same physical individual.

Remember that when you change your vibration you will always attract the
appropriate individuals into your life.  Therefore, they will always feel
like the correct individuals anyway.  You do not need to spend time in
regret for having changed as long as you understand that the change is a
part of your natural being and you are being true to yourself.