Children

Q:  Yes, I wanted lo ask you a question.  I have grandchildren and I have
some definite ideas about raising them that are different from the way my
daughter and son-in-law are raising them.  It is hard for me to not want to
take responsibility for them but I want to be able to give them as much
love as I can without taking over their responsibility.  Can you give me
some guidance on that?

B: Well first of all, again understand that the only thing you will ever be
able to do is to try to be responsible /for/ them, but you can't be.  Because
you are not them.  You just can't be.  It's not possible /to/ be responsible
for them.  You can be responsible /to/ them by being the fullest individual
you know how to be.  Let them feel your love, let  them feel that you
believe in them, that you believe in their ability to create in their lives
what they need for themselves. That's your faith. That's what will attract
them to you. That's what will allow them to hear you and listen to you.
Not because you need them to, not because you want them to, just because
they will feel from you such a vibration of knowing trust that they are
exactly who they need to be-they will seek your guidance and suggestions
because they will know that your love and faith will never come with a
condition.  You understand?

Q:  Yes I do.

B:  And that, paradoxically, is what will allow then to absorb the
information most strongly.

Q:  All right.  Another quick question about my grandchildren.  What can
you suggest we could do to improve the methods with which we educate our
children?

B: Imagination is the key.  The idea of allowing individuals and
your children to do, to act, to be, to involve themselves, to use all the
senses--rather than being restricted in their use of Imagination and fed a
number of formulas which do not necessarily relate to the world of their
interest.  Allow all the things that need to be learned to be translated in
terminologies that benefit the /interest/ of each and every individual.  And
they will, in your terms "gobble up the information voraciously."