*Assisting Without Judgement* Q: I have a situation that just happened yesterday, and I would like to know what you have to say about it. B: All right. Q: Today I began work on a client, and as you know I have a little lisp. B: Yes. Q: And so we began, and he loved the work that I did and physically it really helps him quite a bit. He said that he wanted to do a whole series, so I was talking with him about the particular session, you see, because I not only work with someone's body, I also work with their beliefs. And when I talk to them, it directly relates to what I'm doing with their body. B: Yes. Q: So while he loved what I was doing with his body, he says, "I really don't want to talk to you about this stuff; I'm just not concerned with this stuff." B: All right. Q: So I tried to point out that what I was talking about was directly related to what I was doing. B: Yes. Q: But he didn't want to hear about it. Then after that, I just did the hands-on work and he loved that; but he wants to do a whole series and, you know, for me, my series consists of doing it a certain way, you know, which involves the beliefs, and yet he doesn't want that. B: All right. Now this your opportunity for two options in this way: you can simply continue to create the series as you have already structured it to be, recognizing it is simply a reflection of the vibration you happen to be, and if that individual does not prefer it, they can go elsewhere. And, at the same time, it is an opportunity for you to recognize that there is always fluidity in any given structure, and that you can trust that your ability to tap into all portions of yourself can create a series for the interaction with that individual that may allow you to interact in ways differently than you may normally have created your structure to be. Giving you an opportunity, perhaps, to discover more areas of your flexibility as well. It is up to you. Q: There is just one more thing. And this issue was further clouded because at the end of the session he mentioned that he used a small amount of cocaine, 3 grams a week. (Audience laughs) I'm betting you know about cocaine? B: Yes. Q: And so I immediately saw my judgement come into the whole thing, you know, and I started to get righteous about the whole thing. And, you know, I want to work with this man to improve him, but, at the same time, I don't want to sacrifice my personal integrity. B: Then don't. Simply recognize that you can simply be who you are without necessarily judging anyone else to remain being who you are. And if that individual does not simply like or prefer who you are, they do not have to interact with you. Q: That's true. The thing is, I would prefer to do the work with him and serve his needs with him. B: Understand, you can also recognize you may be serving him by simply being who you are. And, in your terms, allowing him to make the choice to stay with you AS you are, or go elsewhere. But you do not need judgement, in that sense. Q: That's true. B: You can simply share with that individual the idea of your recognition of preferences in this way. Not saying that theirs is right or wrong... and if they, simply in this way, once again, do not prefer the idea you are defining yourself to be, they can go elsewhere. It is that simple. Q: Thank you. B: Thank you. Q2: I was just going to add that the communication that I feel you want to exchange with the individual can be on a telepathic level, on a mental level, and on an emotional level. Just by exchanging emotions you're giving him emotions, you are giving him life, you are giving him spirit. You can accomplish those things silently while you are working on him physically. B: Very good, for recognize that within that individual there also must be indication of a reason that, while they know what you would, quote/unquote, prefer to share with them, they do not want it, yet they are still willing to be with you. Therefore, they may be willing to accept it, as has been pointed out, on some other level. Thank you. Q: Thank you.