*Allowance and Facing Your Fears* Q: Could you please tell us a little bit more how we can let go of this terrible need to control in order to have something? I have that happening in a relationship right now, and I... B: All right. How's this? If you feel you have to control in order to get something, you'll never get it. Q: Well... B: Never, never, /never!/ Now, does that allow you to turn around a little bit? If you try to control a situation through force, you will never truly control it, because true control is /allowance/, not force. True control is allowance. You are already familiar with the idea of an analogy in your society: that to hold water, your hands must be open. Do you follow me? Q: No. B: If you tighten your grip, where does the water go? So if you keep your hands open in allowance, then the water stays put. You have what you desire, because you are willing to allow it to exist in its natural state in your hand. But if you insist that you want to bend and shape it in the way you think it should be, it all runs out of your fingers, and you have no water pretty soon. You follow me? So the analogy is that when you try to control by force, forcing something into the shape you think it needs to be in order to be satisfactory to you, then you are not trusting the natural inherent ability of that thing to provide for you what you need. Let me put it another way, if I may. May I? Q: Yes. B: Thank you very much. If you think you have to force a point of view upon someone else, then obviously you do not believe in the power of that point of view yourself. You follow me, yes, no, maybe? Q: Yes. B: Thank you. Recognize that any time anyone feels a need to force a point of view on a situation, or on another individual, they are simply expressing their belief in their own powerlessness. Forcing something on someone else is not an expression of power; it is an expression of powerlessness. Because you do not believe that you are inherently - by nature - powerful enough to create whatever you desire in life without having to hurt anyone else, or yourself, in order to create it. True power is knowing that you are connected to the Infinite Creation; true power is the willingness to be open in weakness, it is infinite strength - because vulnerability is complete openness, the willingness to trust 100% that you deserve to exist as the being that you are. And therefore, the universe will automatically support you in that existence, by automatically funneling in your direction whatever situations and whatever individuals and whatever circumstances are conducive to the continuation of your existence in an ecstatic state - which is your natural state. So you have to force nothing; it all comes to you when you let it. The only reason that these ideas would not come to you is because you are holding them away, by not creating a receiving shape. You follow me? If water is what you need and you are dying of thirst, and water is pouring all around you, then you do not clutch at it and try to force it down your throat. You open you hands in allowance, so that they will fill with the abundance you require to continue living. Is any of this sinking in? Q: Yes. B: Has this assisted you? Q: Yes, thank you. B: Anything else? Q: I'd like to know more about the fear - how to let go of the fear, the terrible, gripping fear... B: Oh, terrible! Oh, gripping! Q: ... (--?) your heart. B: Oh, all right. How exciting! First of all, recognize that there are many reasons for why you create fear. Sometimes it is because you have become so complacent that the only way you will allow yourself to have an exciting life in the moment is to create fear. But that is only because you have been taught that that may be the only thing that is exciting to you. You will find something to excite you one way or another - positively or negatively. Generally speaking, however, fear occurs in your life when you have been taught to believe - and you buy into the belief - that there are portions of yourself that you might discover that can do you harm against your will. There /is no such thing!/ No such piece of yourself. So when you are afraid to face the things that come up in your life; when you do not pay attention to the messages that you deliver to yourself, then the messenger portion of yourself, in attempting to deliver that message, will become louder and louder and more and more obnoxious until you pay attention. If you are willing to listen to the message when it is first delivered, it will come in subtle ways. But the more you are taught to ignore it, the louder and more scary it will get to attract your attention. So that you can pay attention to the things you have told it you want it to deliver to you; so you can integrate that experience into your being; so you can grow as a being. Fear usually only brings you a recognition of a portion of yourself you have not been willing to face up to that point. All you need to do is face the fear and acknowledge that if you are fearful, you chose to believe in the need to receive the message in a fearful way. And once you allow yourself to recognize why you would have chosen to receive it in a fearful way, your curiosity and your fascination will take over and you will explore the idea of what the message is that is being delivered. And before you know it, your fear has dissolved, because now you are paying attention to the message it has delivered. And as soon as the messenger delivers its message, it doesn't need to stick around. As soon as you say you are ready to accept the message quicker and quicker and quicker, then the next time it comes back, it won't come as fearfully as it did the last time. Because now it finds that you are willing to receive the message sooner - and before it truly had to shout to get your attention. Do you follow me? Q: Yes. B: Has this assisted you? Q: Very much. Thank you. B: Thank you very much for your willingness to explore that particular facet of the multidimensional crystal that you are. Sharing!